How many times have you blown out the candles on your birthday cake, made a wish, and kept it secret? Isn't the superstition that if you voice your wish, it won't come true? That's how it was passed down in our family tradition. At that sweet moment - a birthday celebration - the message to keep our wishes secret or they can't come true, seems counterintuitive. In fact, without voicing our desires, without putting them out there for others to hear, how can these become viable at all? The secret is finding support to make these wishes reality.
Sometimes we purposely do not share our wishes because we don't want to be judged as frivolous, a day-dreamer, or someone who has lost touch with what is real. We want to appear to be happy with the status quo because it makes us look good or strong or capable. But take the case of a client who lost everything - his job, his health, his relationship - but he still wanted to appear to the outside world as okay. So he moved about his day in a way that appeared for the most part that nothing had changed. Eventually, he became bankrupt, his health did not improve - in fact, continued to decline - and so much for appearing strong and capable. Support would have changed everything - in finding a job, stemming his health problems, building other relationships that served his life and helped him to move forward.
This gentleman felt too embarrassed, an imposition, and that no one cared enough to support him through so many losses. He felt he was not good enough to even hope for assistance from family and friends. In the coaching relationship, we explore these gremlins that want to confirm for us that we are not good enough, not capable enough, that we must appear to be who we are not to save face. We challenge the false beliefs that hold us back from living the life we really want. We work together to define what we want in terms of support, and then communicating with others about what we need. The toughest part is taking the first step to open communication and asking someone for support. A coach can help you learn the skills to communicate your desires and to feel the confidence to hope again. Everyone needs support in some way at some time. Join the club, human beings!
If you would like to learn how coaching can support you, I encourage you to fill out the contact page on this website. From there, we can schedule a FREE 30-minute Discovery Session.
So take a deep breath, blow out your candles, and make your wishes known. Support is here.
Coach Leona - contact: leona@nextpagecoaching.com
Sometimes we purposely do not share our wishes because we don't want to be judged as frivolous, a day-dreamer, or someone who has lost touch with what is real. We want to appear to be happy with the status quo because it makes us look good or strong or capable. But take the case of a client who lost everything - his job, his health, his relationship - but he still wanted to appear to the outside world as okay. So he moved about his day in a way that appeared for the most part that nothing had changed. Eventually, he became bankrupt, his health did not improve - in fact, continued to decline - and so much for appearing strong and capable. Support would have changed everything - in finding a job, stemming his health problems, building other relationships that served his life and helped him to move forward.
This gentleman felt too embarrassed, an imposition, and that no one cared enough to support him through so many losses. He felt he was not good enough to even hope for assistance from family and friends. In the coaching relationship, we explore these gremlins that want to confirm for us that we are not good enough, not capable enough, that we must appear to be who we are not to save face. We challenge the false beliefs that hold us back from living the life we really want. We work together to define what we want in terms of support, and then communicating with others about what we need. The toughest part is taking the first step to open communication and asking someone for support. A coach can help you learn the skills to communicate your desires and to feel the confidence to hope again. Everyone needs support in some way at some time. Join the club, human beings!
If you would like to learn how coaching can support you, I encourage you to fill out the contact page on this website. From there, we can schedule a FREE 30-minute Discovery Session.
So take a deep breath, blow out your candles, and make your wishes known. Support is here.
Coach Leona - contact: leona@nextpagecoaching.com
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